Fetish Friday: Rimming

Back again after a successful first Fetish Friday! Unfortunately as you may have noticed this isn’t a weekly article because of the work it takes to get everyone together to do this on time. However this week we have something special with a more diverse group of people to talk about their kink of rimming.

 

If you’ve read my personal stories from the Fucket List, you’ll know that I too have partaken in a rim job; I’ve given, but never received. I love a nice ass so it was only a matter of time before I put my face between those two glorious cheeks. I have to say, I liked it and so did my partner. The fear of taste quickly vanished and I really got into it. After that experience we did it many more times, but it was never really a routine in our sex life; more of a treat. To read the full story of giving my first rim job, click here.

 

Luckily I was able to gather a group of people who absolutely love rimming; both giving and receiving to discuss what it is they love so much about eating ass. This may be one of the few fetishes in this series that I completely understand the intrigue. Now enough of my ramblings, time to meet the participants….

Participants:

Michael – 33, Male from Scotland. Heterosexual, Giver & Receiver.

Harper – 42, Female from California. Pansexual, Giver & Receiver.

Tyler – 33, Male from Ontario, Canada. Bi-Sexual, Giver.

Jennifer – 44, Female from Ontario, Canada. Heterosexual, Giver & Receiver.

Nicky – 30, Male from Boston. Heterosexual, Giver.

To start off, can you tell me when you first discovered you had this kink?

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): The first time I ever had experience with rimming was actually the first girl I had sex with. I had only had sex a couple times (all with the same girl), and she was a couple years younger than me, but a little more sexually experienced.

Anyways, we were drinking one night at her house and I was kind of sitting on her chest as she was giving me a blowjob, when she proceeded to move down a bit and started licking my ass. I absolutely loved it. I couldn’t get enough. Every girl I was with after, I asked if they would rim me, some would and some wouldn’t. It wasn’t a deal breaker for me, but I love it. The first girl was unreal, she did it for a good couple minutes the first time and at first I honestly didn’t really know what she was doing, but I knew I loved it.

As for me licking ass, it is probably my favorite thing to do sexually. It was a couple years later when it became my favorite kink. I went down on this fuck buddy I had for a little while, and I put my thumb in her ass and a couple fingers in her vagina at the same time and licked her asshole around my thumb. As awkward as the whole thing was, she absolutely loved it, which made me love it more. When I pulled my thumb out of her ass and licked her slightly gaping ass, is when I knew this was the kink for me.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Well I had a guy do it to me and it felt so good. So next time I was with a fairly open guy, I started playing with my tongue when I went down on him. Then after I heard and felt his reaction, I realized guys really like it.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): I always have had an ass fetish and feel wildly attracted to a big butt. It developed and it took some time until I could give it proper form. I have been together with my wife for over a decade, but actual rimming was not possible until recently. She is very vanilla and considers her ass dirty. After a lot of talk and positive stimulation from my end to her, she felt more and more secure to explore. Watch certain porn together. I had the guts to ask her when we were in a private sauna. From there we both grew, she had to go through steps to understand my desires. Our sexuality is on totally different scales. The same accounts for Femdom (although I switch). It took years for her to accept.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): How I discovered I had the fetish. I was in high school. My Aunt had Penthouse Forms that I would read and learn all kinds of transgressive things. I tried it on my boyfriend at the time and he tried it on me and we both liked it. Now that I know my ass from my elbow, so to speak, I love it so much more.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): I’ve always had an anal fetish from the moment I first saw a female anus in a pornographic magazine, around 12/13 if I remember correctly. Ever since that moment I knew I was hooked as from then on a nice puckered hole was always my picture of choice during the moment of release when masturbating, something I had discovered at 11.

I had my first taste of ass during my first sexual relationship at University. It was with my first sexual girlfriend when I was 17 and only the second girl I was ever with. She was just over a year older than me and more experienced and I’m pretty sure she got off on the fact that I was younger and so eager to learn about sex. I shared a lot of firsts with her and this was one of them, along with anal too obviously. I remember that my tongue was having mini orgasms from the very first time it touched her anus and it only further cemented my belief that I had an anal fetish. I also discovered that it made me instantly erect too, something that hasn’t changed to this day. Don’t get me wrong, eating pussy is brilliant and I love it, but it doesn’t get me as excited as eating ass does. I’d eat her ass everytime we had sex throughout our year-long relationship.

The first time I was ever rimmed was by my current partner (and unicorn) just last year. Because my anal fetish wasn’t appreciated by my ex-wife during out eight year marriage, I only ever had the opportunity to eat her ass about half a dozen times throughout the entire marriage. Asking for her to consider eating mine would’ve been one step too far for her, so I never asked. I never even though about it any further until my current partner kept mentioning that I should try it too, especially considering I lick her ass on a daily basis. Boy am I glad I did as I love having my partner tongue fuck my asshole. The feeling of being so exposed right in front of her face forces me to sexually relax (something I struggle with on occasions) and, just like eating ass, it makes me diamonds in a split second too. One of the reasons why I now consider myself the luckiest man alive is that I’m in love with someone who loves rimming and being rimmed just as much as I do.

 

 

What makes you like rimming so much?

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): I like the way it makes a guy feel. Hearing him moan while I’m doing it. It’s a big turn on for me to be able to turn on a guy that much. Plus it’s sort of taboo so I like that part too. When I did it to my one partner, he had never had it before. He said it was incredible. I’ve actually cum when rimming a guy.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): I love rimming because there is something so primal about it. I love the smell of a girls asshole, the look of it and the feel of it. There isn’t much else that you can do that is so personal, having your face in between someones ass cheeks licking their ass. It is an added bonus that everyone has an asshole as well, so as much as I like licking a girls vagina, if I’m with a guy or a male-to-female girl I can still enjoy licking their asshole as well. My preference is a girls ass as they are usually just cleaner to look at and smell, but I am not too picky to whatever sex I go down on, as long as their ass is (to me) aesthetically pleasing and clean.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Pretty simple really. On the giving side, it satisfies my oral fixation. On the receiving side, it feels amazing!

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): I’m generally attracted to asses. I get off on the shape, the way it moves. The butt hole in general as the center of it all. The feeling of drowning in her ass makes me ecstatic.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): Crikey, where to begin? It’s a two fold question this, so I’ll answer as a giver first and receiver secondly. Also, I should point out that the anal area is the most intimate part of the human body for me. Freud would no doubt have a field day with this revelation and likely associate it to my relationship with my mother. Personally, I don’t get on with her, so I don’t see the link myself.

Having an anal fetish means that the look, smell and taste of a my partner’s anus is like cocaine for me. I’m almost positive that pheromones play a big part of this too as it doesn’t bother me whether my partner is freshly showered or not. Like I’ve mentioned in my previous message, the moment my tongue touches her hole I’m rock solid hard, so this is obviously a physical reflection of my mental state (blissful heaven). I think another part of why I like giving is the fact that I have such a receptive partner. Whilst not being an anal virgin prior to meeting me, she’d never discovered that having her anus spoilt so much can be so pleasurable, nor had she ever had an anal orgasm, so when you couple this with my previous marriage you can understand why this a big deal for me.

As for receiving, I love it because feels AMAZING! Good god when she pushes and prods her tongue as deep as she can the tingly sensations can be felt all along my perineum, past my balls and right to the tip of my cock. There is no other feeling like it in the world. It forces me to relax and enjoy the moment rather than let my anxieties run amok inside my mind. Again, mentioned previously, but it makes diamonds beyond belief too.

 

Tell me about this first time you rimmed.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): So long ago, I hardly remember… it was with my boyfriend. There was minimal prep, just a shower so it was mostly external, my boyfriend went crazy though. He had never experienced anything like it and neither had I.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): The first time was in a private sauna. I wanted to ask my wife for years but never had the guts to do it. I was opening op more and more to her about my actual desires, she was not open to it in the beginning but slowly understood it is a part of me.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): I can’t really remember. I think a guy did it to me, so I returned the favor.

 

 

Describe To Me Your Ideal Ass.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): There is such a variety to women, but the two that are a bit different off the top of my head are Susanna Spears and Dominika C. Susanna has a tight ass with a bit of meat to it that would feel nice on the face when rimming, with a dark asshole but very clean. On the other hand, Dominika C has a bit of a meatier and dark asshole (and pussy) so it would probably feel so good to lick. You would actually be able to feel it. That is not everyone’s flavour, but that really gets me off.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): That’s another easy one… my lover’s ass.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): The ideal ass is big, a kind of pear shaped and moves and wiggles. Not to big though. Would be even more perfect if I can drown my face in it.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): My partner’s. She’s got an amazing sphincter, unlike I’ve ever seen before. To begin with her anus never gapes. As soon as I pull out my fingers, penis or her one of her toys, it immediately closes shut as if it was virginal and untouched. In all my years of sex and porn I’ve never seen another anus do this. Not once has my cum ever trickled back out of it after anal sex.

Another thing that I love about it is that she’s had laser treatment to stop hair growing there altogether. For me a hairy asshole is hugely off-putting one. I’ll never forget the one and only time I’ve ever refused to eat ass was during a one night stand about 16 years ago. She had trimmed her pussy but ignored her anus completely and wanted me to eat her out there too. Thanks but no thanks.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Well not flat. Short of muscular and round. Doesn’t have much to do with attraction to add though. It’s more to do with how it makes the guy feel.

 

How does one prepare for a rim job? Shower? Shave? Douche? Etc.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): Shaved assholes are nice, a little bit of hair is ok but I’m not a fan of too much of it to be honest. A recent shower is always good. I like the smell of an ass, but a clean one.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): None of the above to be honest. We wipe properly and I trim my hair (she’s already lasered). That’s about it. We love each others natural musk and taste so we just play it naturally.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Everyone is different, I’ve had partners not want or care about enemas before anal play… but that’s not my scene. I should start by saying that I’m uncommonly selective about my play partners… doubly so about partners that I consider rimming. After we talk about enemas and that I desire, I may well want to shower with them to make sure everything is nice and hygienic. As for my routine, standard issue enema with a shower and sugar scrub finish.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): Only a shower is sufficient for me.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Yes, all three.

 

 

Do most rimjobs lead to anal sex?

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): Definitely not. There’s a huge difference between tickling someone with your tongue and sticking something in there.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): No, it leads to sex. It’s a big part of our foreplay, regardless of whether we have anal or not.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): No, not all. Some, but not most.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): No, hardly. Happened maybe twice.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): If it was man and man, probably; because it lubes you up and opens you. But in my case, no. I combine it with an intense blowjob. It actually gives my jaw a break.

 

Do you do other things when rimming to stimulate your partner?

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): Ya for sure. Can lick back and forth between her asshole and vagina, or rub the clit a bit. If a girl is into it can stick a finger in her ass or caress her boobs and body. You’ve gotta be able to stimulate more than one area. I know I like it when I’m getting action all over anyways, and I find most of my partners do too. If I’m with a guy or a trans girl I will jerk them off a bit or lick their balls too. Or play with in between the asshole and balls.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): Sometimes I first lick her pussy to horn her up, not letting her come. Also depends on the position. If she lays on her belly she likes it that I rub her back, squeeze her ass. When on her knees, I like to squeeze her tits, wrap my arms around her waist and pull her back and forth from me.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Depends really, sometimes PIV, sometimes pegging or even a reach around.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): It depends on the moment in question. Sometimes I eat both holes at the same time, sometimes I’ll toy or play with her clit or sometimes I’ll finger fuck her as my tongue is prodding her anus.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Yes, it’s a complete blow job. I play with him first with my tongue and mouth and move my tongue down to his balls. Suck on them a little while; my hand on his cock. Then I move further down to rim him for a while and then mouth goes back up to his cock.

 

 

Do rimming and facesitting go hand in hand?

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): I do not think so. Facesitting has a Dom/sub aspect and you need to be in to that. The suffocate and smother effect. Compare it with 69ing, does everybody who likes 69ing like it to get a butt in his/her face? I do not think that is true.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Not for me… facesitting and cunnilungus do, but not rimming.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): My love for rimming and facesitting go hand in hand. There’s something about a girl grinding her asshole and pussy all over your face that is so sexy. It gives her control but is also the most up close and personal you get to being in between someone’s legs.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): Personally yes as I love both.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): I don’t know. I guess with a girl sitting on a guy. I’m not technical when I have sex. I just get into the moment. This is kind of over thinking sex.

 

Can you orgasm from a rim job alone?

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Yes.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): No, she can not. She also does not reciprocate. It is not in her interest. However it does turn her on massively when I’m doing it to her.  

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): I have never orgasmed from a rimjob alone, but usually whenever I’m getting my ass licked there is more play involved. I have given others intense pleasure from licking their ass but never an orgasm from that alone. That said, I usually involve other play as well.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): My partner can’t orgasm from it alone but I can when she eats me. It’s heavenly.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Yes, I can orgasm giving a rim job, when I hear the guy enjoying it a lot.

 

Do you have any rim job horror stories?

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): Luckily I don’t have any rim job horror stories. There have been times when pulling my dick or finger out of an ass that I have had to go clean myself off a little bit, but never from licking.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): Actually no, not at all. We are both very hygienic.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Thankfully I don’t!

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): It depends on your definition of horror. As a anal enthusiast poop is an occupational hazard and doesn’t horrify me, although I can imagine it might others. Apart from the odd “Klingon”, I’m glad to report I’ve never had to experience anything worse.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): No because I only do it for special guys. Guys I’m really into.

 

 

Tyler, what is the difference between rimming a man’s ass versus a woman’s ass?

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): A woman’s ass is usually much smoother and nicer in general. Plus women are usually less hairy down there. I don’t mind a bit of hair, but I would never lick a guy or trans girls ass who has a lot of hair. I have only licked a couple guys asses, but they were hairless and I am not as keen on it to be honest.

 

Describe to me your ultimate rimming fantasy.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): If I’m thinking of my ultimate fantasy, it would be tantric. My lover and I would be in the moment and follow the energy. We would be focused on the pleasure and not outcome. Rimming is perfect for this scenario because it’s pure sensation. Tantra is about deep connection and intimacy and rimming is one of the most intimate things you can do. Pure pleasure.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): I have that actually happening multiple times a week. She on her belly or her ass up and just drowning in her face. Sometimes a sniff of poppers for some extra depth.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): My ultimate rimming fantasy would be having a girl or trans-girl licking my ass, while a girl is grinding my face with her pussy and asshole. I could go on about that and get more detailed, but that would be a nice start.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): This is something we do quite often, even last night if I’m honest. My partner sits on my face and starts bouncing her ass up and down on my face whilst she strokes my oiled cock, balls and asshole.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): You have to understand the reason I like rimming so much is of the pleasure I get from doing it. So my fantasy would be another woman going down on a guy while I’m rimming him. Then he’d be fucking her as I rim him more. That should drive him crazy.

 

How did you bring up your kink with your partner?

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): I stopped dating vanilla so I don’t encounter that or any kink bias. If I did need to bring it up, then I would employ the technique Dan Savage talks about. Present your kinks like it’s Christmas for them, without shame or insecurity.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): I just kind of asked. When I go to rim someone it usually just happens. If they don’t like it I stop, if they do I carry on.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): It was a long and step wise process that took almost 10 years. I’m also into Femdom so that was part of the process. Slowly getting more comfortable, watching sorts of porn together. Make light jokes about it. Like saying “I really would like to stick my tongue in there one day” when showering together. Compliment a lot. Her body is your ship in that sense. It is also a sort of give and take and maturation of your sex life right. I’m interested in pegging, at some point I just bought a little plug and dildo and we played. Blindfolding. Taking time and growth is key.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): I didn’t really bring it up. I just sort of tested the waters. I went down there and started playing. If I get they like it, I keep going. If I hear them moan, I really get into it, where I even start squirming. I try and use my hand to keep playing with his cock while I’m rimming.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): When we started dating we were very open with each other regarding everything in our lives including sex. I bought up I had an anal fetish and she showed me her anus for the first time. The rest is history.

 

Best/Worst reaction to finding out about your kink?

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Worst – after I told a guy that I was always kinky, vanilla told me that I must have been abused in my past; that I should see a professional for my mental health issues and that he would pray for me.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): Best reaction: the first girl that went down on me. She started licking my ass and I didn’t know what was going on completely for a minute, then I told her I absolutely loved it and she just went deeper and harder with her tongue. I came all over her pretty quickly there. Worst reaction: nothing too crazy, just had a girl tell me the thought of me licking her ass was gross and to stop.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): I’ve got my ex-wife to thank for this one. Disgust. She tried analingus twice, orgasmed the 2nd time, tried to deny it and then scolded me for being a sexual pervert, even during marriage counselling.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Best was a guy who was blown away. Never had that done to him before. He just exploded. Worst was I think one guy thought I’d go further and stick my fingers or something up his ass so he stopped me.

 

 

What celebrity would you like to rim most?

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): The pornstar I would love to rim the most is Dido Angel. She is pretty kinky in some of her videos and I think she is absolutely gorgeous with a perfect little ass. So that would be fun. As for A list celebrity, I would love to rim Alison Brie. She is so sexy in such a cute way.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): I really do not have a celebrity crush. Any cute butt on the street will do. I fantasize about that sometimes.

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Can’t think of any I’d like to, but if Jason Momoa offered to do it to me… I’d accept.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): I can honestly say that I’ve never thought about this. I’m not much of a celebrity follower to be honest.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Brett Favre.

 

What would you say to someone who may be a closet rimmer? Or someone who may want to get into it more, but isn’t sure how to go about it?

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Simple… try it. Desire begins in our imagination. People get stuck in their heads as to what they can and can not do. You really never know until you try.

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): For someone who is a closet rimmer I would say don’t rush into it with a new partner, but to ease into it. Honestly most people love it once they get over the thought of it. When someone is turned on and you’re going down on them, give the ass just a little lick and gauge their reaction. If they still don’t like it then obviously stop, but if they do then lick it a bit more and more.

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): If you are in a healthy and stable relationship I would suggest just to communicate about it in anyway that works for you two as a couple. If you are not in such situation I would be more careful, since both need to feel comfortable for this. Maybe carefully bring it up when the situation allows it.

Michael (33, Male, Giver/Receiver): Like many other aspects of a relationship, communication with your partner is key. Failing that, run them a bubble bath and hand them their favourite tipple of alcoholic beverage and a joint you lovingly rolled for them. Then tell them you’ll be waiting in the bedroom to give them a nice “massage” after they’re finished.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Don’t overthink it. Just get in the moment and start playing down there with your tongue. Go with how it makes you and the other person feel.

 

Any final thoughts?

Harper (42, Female, Giver/Receiver): Go team kinky!

Nicky (30, Male, Giver): Rimming has enriched my life in so may ways. Beside enjoying the actual act, it really brought us closer together. Sharing something super intimate. It is not dirty, it is not disgusting, and it does not smell. Just be open to it, try it and I’m sure it is better than expected!

Tyler (33, Male, Giver): I would say that rimjobs are completely underrated. Some people get hung up on that the ass is gross. But as long as you are clean (if you want your ass licked, keep it clean) it can be quite enticing. It is a lot of fun.

Jennifer (44, Female, Giver/Receiver): Sex is natural and it’s natural to want to feel good. So just go with it and do what makes you feel good. Don’t let other people’s opinions stop you from doing what feels good by saying it’s dirty or not natural. It’s more fun to be open to new things.

 

 

I personally want to thank Tyler, Harper, Nicky, Jennifer & Michael for taking the time to speak to me.

 

 

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